Why is it so hard to love?
My little children, let us not love in word, neither in tongue; but in deed and in truth. And hereby we know that we are of the truth, and shall assure our hearts before him. 1 John 3:18-19
You would think that within the family of God we would all love one another because that’s what our Lord commanded us to do and we should desire to please Him. But I am not that naïve, because I see the opposite from time to time. Sadly, we have just as many quarrels as those found in the world, we just put a religious façade on them and try to make them seem worthwhile. So, why is it so hard to love? Well, for starters, we live in a world that is fueled by hate, and tragically, the church has adopted that mentality, often justifying ungodly behavior.
Let me let you in on a little secret: the church is not supposed to be about our comforts or our own handpicked wishes—it’s supposed to be all about Jesus Christ! I was recently talking to a pastor friend about the state of the American church and he said something to the effect that Christians in Iran (and other foreign nations) would be appalled at the things that we argue about as the church today. They are just happy to be alive and have Jesus, and all the comforts that we enjoy today don’t even exist for many of them. We have attempted to make church about us.Now, let’s connect our inconsistencies and griping about comforts to the current state of the church. It all comes down to the fact that we have not been practicing Christian love, first toward our Lord and Savior, and second, toward our brothers and sisters in Christ. Jesus told the church in Ephesus that they had left their first Love (Revelation 2:4). We tend to get so uptight when someone disagrees with our self-made truth that we think is biblical, when in reality, it’s man-made. When we couple the unchanging truth of God’s Word with the unconditional love that He has given us, then we will see the church move forward as we are unified in Him. Jesus said in John 13:35, “By this shall all men know that ye are my disciples, if ye have love one to another.”